Insomnia Disorder: Can’t Fall Asleep, Can’t Stay Asleep

What it is

Insomnia Disorder involves trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking too early—at least 3 nights per week for 3+ months—with daytime impact (fatigue, irritability, brain fog, reduced performance). Short-term insomnia is common; when it persists, targeted treatment helps.

Insomnia is not just “bad sleep hygiene.” It’s a conditioned arousal problem that responds well to structured therapy.

Common signs and symptoms

  • Lying awake for 30+ minutes at bedtime or after awakenings
  • Fragmented sleep, early morning awakenings, nonrestorative sleep
  • Daytime sleepiness or fatigue, low mood, anxiety about sleep
  • “Tired but wired” feeling; clock-watching at night
  • Reliance on naps, caffeine, alcohol, or sedatives to cope

Why it happens

  • Hyperarousal: stress, worry, and conditioned bed–wakefulness association
  • Irregular schedules, caffeine/alcohol, evening light/screen exposure
  • Co-occurring conditions: anxiety, depression, pain, sleep apnea, restless legs, medications

What helps

  • Gold standard: CBT-I (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia)
    • Sleep restriction/compression: match time in bed to actual sleep, then expand
    • Stimulus control: bed only for sleep/sex; get up if awake >15–20 min; consistent wake time
    • Cognitive tools: reduce sleep catastrophizing and clock-watching
    • Relaxation: breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, wind-down routine
  • Circadian and lifestyle supports
    • Fixed wake time, morning light exposure, daytime activity
    • Limit caffeine after midday; avoid alcohol as a “sleep aid”
    • Dim lights/screens 1–2 hours before bed; use night mode or blue-light filters
  • Medications and supplements
    • Short-term options: doxepin low-dose, zolpidem/zopiclone, eszopiclone, suvorexant/lemorexant, ramelteon—best paired with CBT-I
    • Melatonin: small dose (0.5–1 mg) 3–5 hours before desired bedtime for circadian shifting; 1–3 mg at bedtime in older adults
    • Evaluate for sleep apnea or restless legs if snoring, witnessed apneas, or urge to move legs

CBT-I often improves sleep within 4–8 weeks and has longer-lasting benefits than meds.

When to seek help now

  • Insomnia 3+ nights/week for 3 months with daytime impairment
  • Loud snoring, apneas, gasping, or severe leg discomfort at night
  • Thoughts of self-harm or not wanting to live (seek urgent help)

How to talk to a clinician

  • “I’ve had chronic insomnia with difficulty [falling/staying asleep]. I’d like referral to CBT-I and to screen for sleep apnea/restless legs.”

Outlook

Most people sleep better with CBT-I, consistent routines, and addressing co-occurring conditions. Expect gradual wins: faster sleep onset, fewer awakenings, better energy.

Resources for readers in the USA

  • Immediate help: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline; Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741)
  • Find care: Psychology Today (filter for CBT-I); FindTreatment.gov; AASM Sleep Center locator (aasm.org)
  • Self-guided CBT-I: VA CBT-I Coach app; online programs (e.g., sleepio.com, cbtforinsomnia.com)
  • Low-cost/community: Community Health Centers (findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov); 211
  • Insurance tips: Ask about in-network CBT-I, sleep study coverage (home vs lab), device coverage for sleep apnea; copay/coinsurance, deductible, out-of-pocket max
  • Work/school supports: ADA accommodations (flexible start time temporarily), EAP; campus counseling

Disclaimer: Educational information, not a diagnosis. If in crisis, use the resources above.

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